So, okay it’s been a while. But my excuse is that I’m planning a wedding! As of today there are 71 days til the official start of our life together. Regardless of the fact we’ve been together for the last three years.
This weekend I’m getting my wedding dress. Well, actually it’s been at my sister’s house for the past month but she’s bringing it down to the house tomorrow. The Dude and I are going to serve up a late lunch with the family and just hang out. Of course I’m going to try the dress on BEFORE we eat lunch.
This past month has been a flurry of activity. By that I mean the credit card has been getting a work out! The following items are completed:
- wedding bands purchased
- favors for the reception – pretty organza bags with the traditional white Jordan almonds. Hey! I’m Italian!
- materials for table centerpieces – glass bowls, candles, silk flowers…. you get the idea
- INVITATIONS! My future sister-in-law created them. They are gorgeous and are ready to be mailed.
- Silk tie for The Dude. If I didn’t purchase a tie for him it would have been Bugs Bunny or The Three Stooges. He is now going to be wearing a beautiful purple paisley tie.
- Foundation garments for my dress. Get out the hydraulics my friends!
But just when I think I’m just about done buying stuff I realize that I still don’t have shoes or a purse. No bridal jewelry yet. New make-up! I’ve got to have new make-up! And what about a new perfume to go with everything? Oh, and I’ve got to get a new hairstyle! Plus if I don’t color my hair soon, I’ll look like some two-toned freak walking down the aisle.
What I’m getting at is that it just doesn’t stop. There is always one more thing that you’ve got to buy or do when you are planning your wedding. It’s exhausting. That’s when I need to stop, take a breath, and realize what the day is really going to be about. I am marrying my best friend. It may have taken us half our lives to find each other, but I know that the next half of our lives will be marvelous. Problems, crises, setbacks? I’m sure we’ll have our share. But I also know that we’ll get through them together with love, faith, and some laughs.
This morning was a perfect example of this. Sitting having coffee with The Dude. We’re both trying to get ready for the work day. But we took a couple of minutes to go through his baby book, looking for snapshots for our wedding website. It was five minutes. Just five minutes. But in that five minutes we laughed and reminisced about his family. Maybe it would seem like an ordinary scene to some, but to me it cemented what I’ve known all along. This is the man I was meant to spend the rest of my life with. I had a smile on my face all the way to work.
Oh, and we picked out our first dance. Actually, The Dude suggested it. Ah, another reason why I love him. Someone Like You by Van Morrison. Perfect and oh so appropriate.